Marital Q & A’s

Is My Wife Playing Me for a Fool?

Q Dear Dr. Tobin, My wife and I have been separated for one year now. Some people around me say she is playing me for a fool, but she sometimes shows up for counseling and when she does everything is okay for a couple of days but then she does not want to return my calls or want to talk to me and says she

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Should I have an affair?

Q Dear Dr. Tobin, I agree that having an affair is a sign of problems in a marriage, but what if you’ve told your partner that you’re tempted to have an affair and your partner acts as if that is ridiculous and seems to push you to spend time with the person that you are considering having the affair with…all the time saying that marriage

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My Husband Doesn’t Do His Share

Q Dear Dr. Tobin, My husband and I married during his medical residency. With the understanding that he had greater time constraints than I, I took over most of the household duties, including finances, and when our son was born all the child care. He has now completed all of his training and I see little indication that he wants to take on a fairer

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My Husband’s Work Dictates How We Live

Q Dear Dr. Tobin, I am 41, married with three children ages 15,11,and 5. My children are going to a public school that is 30 -45 minutes away from my home. My husband’s work has always dictated what side of town we live on. Now his job is shaky and I feel my life and my children’s life is eaten away by commuting, lack of

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Articles by Dr. Michael Tobin
Dr. Michael Tobin has been a psychologist for forty-seven years specializing in couple and family therapy. He co-founded a theater company that performed vignettes on family and marital issues, which he co-wrote. These plays were performed over 100 times. He is the co-founder of, an award winning website that focuses on how to solve typical marital and family challenges.