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The affair as a solution

The Affair as a Solution

In this eighth installment of the Marital Labyrinth series, published simultaneously at Psychology Today, Dr Tobin considers the affair as a solution in the mind of the adulterer. You can view all articles in the series at this page. Imagine for a moment that you’re Kate’s closest friend. She tells you, “I can’t keep this a secret from you. I’m falling for another man. I work with

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Is an Affair Like an Addiction?

Is an Affair Like an Addiction?

In this seventh installment of the Marital Labyrinth series, published simultaneously at Psychology Today, Dr Tobin asks whether an affair is like an addiction, and confronts some of the self-justifications that can lead someone into an affair. You can view all articles in the series at this page. The Alluring Appeal of an Affair Kate found no solace from her exquisite night of imagined pleasure. She couldn’t

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Is it cheating to fantasize about another person?

Is it Cheating to Fantasize about Another Person?

In this sixth instalment of the Marital Labyrinth series, published simultaneously at Psychology Today, Dr Tobin asks whether it is cheating to fantasize about another person. You can view all articles in the series at this page. The mind is the most powerful sexual organ in the body. Through creative imagination and fantasy a couple can bring excitement and drama to their lovemaking. It takes courage to

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What are the missing ingredients that lead to a martial affair?

Yes or No to an Affair?

The Marital Labyrinth series continues with this fifth article – published simultaneously at Psychology Today – in which Dr Tobin considers the underlying causes, and the missing ingredients in a marriage, that can lead to an affair. You can view all articles in the series at this page. After the Affair: The Therapy Begins Kate and Dan began therapy with me approximately a month after Dan discovered Kate’s

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A Dating Coach Reviews a Hinge Profile

This article originally appeared at Insider.com Christopher is a 31-year-old living in San Francisco who volunteered to have his dating app profile analyzed by an expert for Insider’s Dating App Clinic.  Psychologist Dr. Michael Tobin said Christopher’s bio is great, but he needs to choose stronger photos. If you’d like to have your profile reviewed by experts, fill out this form. Top stories based on your reading

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Will and Jada smith have announced they have an open marriage

How Long Can an Open Marriage Remain Open Before the Marriage Falls Apart?

In this third article of the Marital Labyrinth series, published simultaneously at Psychology Today, we look at the realities of an open marriage. You can view all articles on the series page. Thanks to Will and Jada Smith, there’s been an increased discussion in the media about open marriages. I’ve been asked to wade in on this subject. This is an unexpected but relevant detour from the Marital Labyrinth

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A married couple consider the impact of a marital affair

Could a Marital Affair Happen to You?

In this second article of the Marital Labyrinth series, published simultaneously at Psychology Today, we ask whether a marital affair could happen to you? You can view all articles on the series page. The Cracks that Lead to a marital affair A marital crisis doesn’t erupt without warning, nor does it explode without a context.  A violent, seismic fracture such as an affair may be

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The Discovery of Truth Begins from Confusion and Doubt

If given a choice between confusion and clarity, hard to imagine that there’d be one among us who would choose confusion over clarity.  Yet, the discovery of truth begins from the uncertainty of not knowing.  Counterintuitive.  Or so you would think. Yet a cardinal principle of the Yaqui Indian shaman, Don Juan, the main protagonist of the books by the cultural anthropologist, Carlos Castaneda. Here’s Don Juan on clarity: Once a

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Articles by Dr. Michael Tobin
Dr. Michael Tobin has been a psychologist for forty-seven years specializing in couple and family therapy. He co-founded a theater company that performed vignettes on family and marital issues, which he co-wrote. These plays were performed over 100 times. He is the co-founder of www.wholefamily.com, an award winning website that focuses on how to solve typical marital and family challenges.